What the wedding is really about

Last night I was looking through some pictures of wedding bands for David, decorations for the reception, and as I looked at a picture of a couple holding hands I remembered something David told me not long ago: "Baby, this is our day and as long as we're married at the end of the day that is all that matters." And that is the truth, plain and simple. 


I've been stressing myself out trying to figure out what will work, what won't work, what will look best, what is the least expensive, what will be the prettiest,  how to create decorations and invitations, and whether or not to worry about chairs and tables and alcohol for the reception. Plus lots more. 


On our first date David got a flat tire and we had to walk from the beginning of his parents neighborhood to their house so he could get his truck (we were David's dad's truck). It was a mile walk. But was we walked David reached for my hand and we held hands while we walked--that mile did not feel like a mile at all. We talked and walked, while holding hands, and the time passed by fast. From that moment, the moment he reached for my hand I began to fall for him. Little by little.  


Last night he reached for my hand while we were sitting on the couch, a simple gesture he does all the time, and I got butterflies in my stomach again, just like I do every time he reaches for my hand, or kisses my forehead or touches the small of my back...It's the simple gestures of love that mean so much, that we often take for granted. My point is:


Our wedding is a celebration of our love, and we want to share our wedding day with our family and close friends, but what matters the most is that at the end of the day we are married. If it rains on our outdoor wedding, if the decorations aren't finished or even if we don't have very many, if only half of the guests show up, if anything or everything goes wrong then it will be okay...We're getting married. 

Engagement pics...

 These pictures were taken on Easter, by my Aunt Charmin. She did a great job of taking our pictures! I'm so blessed.

(I'm thinking that I really need to revamp my exercise program so I can tone my arms, and lose a few pounds. I don't feel like I am that big, but evidently I am bigger than I thought I was )-: So it's time to get more serious about exercising!!!!)

I love the pictures though.

We're finally taking engagement photos

We're off to spend Easter with my mom's family at the lake. Great people and food and view. And while we're there my aunt is going to take a few pics of me and David so we actually have some engagement pics. They have a dock and we're going to take a few pics there, and a few pics in front of a tree, and a few with David holding his guitar...I'm excited about David meeting this part of my family (I have a huge number of aunt's and uncles) and he's only met my dad's family so far. So as we sip coffee and finish getting ready I just wanted to take a minute to catch up on things.

One more thing on the "to-do" list done (by the end of the day)....

Inspiration

My fiance David is a musician. While trying to figure out a theme for our wedding I came across an article that referred to a music/musician themed wedding. I remember thinking, "that sounds cool." I googled and found several images, some decorations for sale, one or two websites, but mostly lots of pics of sheet music inspired "stuff." I love black & white pics, black & white decorations, etc. Since I'd already changed the color of the bridesmaids dresses from dark purple/lapis to little black dresses (not matchy matchy) I thought "this might be IT." I did some more looking. I looked on Etsy, I looked on Ebay, I looked on wedding websites, in magazines, etc.

What it all acme down to was this: I found the niche between the two of us, that thing that helped bring us together (friends and music), and am using it as our theme. Our wedding/reception isn't going to be some formal shindig with a cocktail hour, nor will it be in a church or in a "venue," we're having it at my parents home. The wedding will be in their front yard and the reception in the backyard. We're having barbeque and the fixin's, beer, lots of family and friends, and some flowers and mason jars with tea light candles in them, and probably a couple of  bottles of Jack (my dad will haven hidden in the "mancave" for himself and a few of his close friends/relatives), and we're probably going to have a homemade red velvet cake withe wedding topper on it....and as I sit here thinking about everything (like my DIY wedding invitations that I'm working on, or my gunmetal grey dress that I need to have altered to tea length and my silver Cinderella shoes to match, or how I don't really give a rat's ass about whether or not everyone we invite shows up so long as the important people do, and most of them are either related to us, in the wedding, or both) I realize this just might be my dream wedding come true.

Would I want to have the fancy church, the cathedral train and veil, the sit down dinner and cocktail hour, the wedding planner, florist, etc...? No, not really. I'm a little stressed out about planning it myself, but at least this way I know it is about US.

Engaged and planning wedding

He proposed on Jan 16th, and I said yes. My engagement ring/wedding set was my mothers. My father gave it to her when they got engaged, but what makes it even more special is that my father died when I was 7 years old, so it is amazing to me. The pictures isn't the best quality, I'll have to try to get a better picture to add later. 
 My mom was lucky enough to meet the second most wonderful man in the world, and they were married 2 months before I turned 9. My daddy will be with me in spirit and my dad will be walking me down the aisle on Sept 8, 2012.